COLOURS OF FRIENDS

Loving people come in various forms but I think the most potent disposition of love is found in friendship. In Aristotle’s philosophy of friendship, it can exist for pleasure or utility, but the best kinds of friendship exist without purpose. Essentially, the best kind of friendship is the “useless one”, a friendship that just is.

This post is about friends, present, future, and past. Friends in each memory with sunshine and rain. Friends who have become family and to the friendship I have found in family. I have gone on a date and instead of returning with a lover, I found friendship, I have had college roommates turn besties.

I have made some friends based on location. Childhood friends I played hide and seek with. Friends who became lovers. I have had friends whom I crushed on and who crushed on me. Friends as the best Valentine’s and the worst too.

I have had friends in need and out of need. Friends I lean on strongly and friends who need me more than I need them, suffered betrayal by the hands of friends and have experienced friends who cheered loudest in my wins.  Friends, I will go over and beyond even if they will not do the same.

I have had friends who know every secret and friends I make secrets with. Friends who do not rate me as a friend as much as I rate them but I like them anyways. I have had friends who know nothing about my eccentricity and those who are attuned to my every tone.

I have made friends in a hurry that is lasting a lifetime and walked in on some friendship by serendipity. I have blocked and unblocked some friends, fallen in and out of love with some, friends who chose friendship with me instead of the love story they wanted. I have friends who are confidantes and mentors.

Friends I inspire and who inspire me in return. I have become closer friends with other people’s friends and snatched some friends too😜. I have found sisters through friendship, strangers who have burrowed a space in my heart.

I have learnt through friendship to be consistent, less judgmental, to find my voice, to seek validation, I have found acceptance, truth, support even when I am not exactly doing the right thing, and chastisement when I am deserving. I have friends who sound the warning alarm long before there is a crisis and friends who sit through a crisis, facing every panic together oceans apart. Friends who are ready to get in a fight for me and over me (my friends know I cannot fight so I don’t think they’d say this about me 😂😂), friends I have never met but whose love crosses over continents to envelope me.

In this never-ending cycle of friendship, I am grateful for the gift that friendship has bestowed on me. Friends who make life colourful each day and make all the difference in giving meaning to a dull existence otherwise.

To all my friends, I say thank you from the depths of my heart. May I always be love, loving correctly, forgiving, and growing, sharing all seasons with the odds in our favour.🥂

To say I love you will be the least form of expression.