OVER THINKER

I can think ehn… I don’t know if you are like me. The issue with being an overthinker, is that you don’t act much, or participate much in life because you’d rather think it all through and by the time you are done, life has gone past.

You can imagine trying to reach a future decision for the present, by considering what will befall you in the future, while trying to maintain the balance of living in the now, without being scandalous enough to squander the future. Whew!

If that doesn’t make any sense to you, don’t worry, you don’t have the problem of over thinking.

Over thinking can sometimes be a blessing, but more often than not, it is a burden. As an over thinker, mood swings are sure for you. You cannot listen to one line of a problematic situation in your head without playing out a dozen different scenarios on how that could have gone differently.

One perk of being an over thinker; nothing catches you by surprise, because you are legit thinking about surprising elements. At some point, when you have become a pro in thinking too much, you start thinking for others in advance too, so you can understand your part in their lives without having to actively participate when the time comes.

Basically, it is like fast forwarding a movie and playing all your parts in advance so, when your part comes on,  you’re on autopilot. Simply put, it is like a rehearsal.

Do you see what I go through in my head? This is a daily participation in my head. Honestly, I hold meetings and debates with myself in my head. It is a lot.

Sadly, over thinking may not have a cure. You just learn to live with it, and not let it affect your life adversely. You learn to sieve ideas quickly enough to participate in the decision you make timeously…

As an overthinker, life is not always bad… You just need to learn balance. How to hold opposing ideas in your head while reaching an equilibrium.

That’s what I strive for everyday. Equanimity. Sometimes, the need to be perfect can be so overbearing, that you become paralyzed until you are sure you’re making a perfect move.

To be a perfect over thinker, one needs to make room for the messy sometimes, and the fun in over thinking should be the irony that you got caught despite your preparedness.

That’s life, you can’t prepare for all the scenarios.