Connoisseur of Memories

When mental health is in issue, I don't understand why a lot of people shy away from stating its importance. In Nigeria where I am from, people surmise mental health as overrated, and that individuals who suffer a meltdown are weak. Maybe, it is an African thing. Honestly, weakness has nothing to do with it.… Continue reading TAKING RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR EMOTIONAL HEALTH

Growing up as a young girl, I was taught that men were dangerous and the ability to ruin my life was within their power. I guess, that was my mom's way of protecting my virtue and preserving me for my husband. Were I less quizzical, that should have been enough to appease my curiousity, but,… Continue reading PROBITY

Understanding your trueness, is an important journey to undertake. And, it is not about trying to be "woke", or being popular among sage people. It is more about focusing on your uniqueness, by channeling it to live a quality life. It is about harnessing your comparative advantage as you navigate the world's disadvantages. It is… Continue reading STAYING TRUE TO YOURSELF

Have you noticed that when there is a wealthy person in neighbourhood, family, or anywhere else for that matter, people just sort of expect that person to bless others and by others, I mean, everybody? When that doesn't happen, especially, when lots of people can't say they have benefited from such wealthy person personally, they… Continue reading NECESSARY SELFISHNESS

I am very deliberate about how I wear the feminism tag. Originally, it wasn't one I would brandish in public. Within close circles however, my position was crystal. I started out with the belief that individualism is superior to other kinds of "isms" and unequivocally, the only one that matters. In fact, I used to… Continue reading WHY I AM A FEMINIST

I think everyone lives in pursuit of happiness, but not everyone can detail what their happiness looks like. Instead, we are constantly trying to fit into an image we think should bring us happiness. You know the linear equation of life; in which, at a certain age, you should start a family, you should earn… Continue reading DETERMINING THE FACE OF YOUR HAPPINESS

I grew up hearing: "You are small". I was either too small for a class, age wise, or literally, stature wise. So, I got used to tuning out the definition of small. At some point, the word small became utterly meaningless to me. The funny thing is, in my head, I am perfect. I try… Continue reading IN BETWEEN HOW WE ARE SEEN AND HOW WE APPEAR

I can think ehn... I don't know if you are like me. The issue with being an overthinker, is that you don't act much, or participate much in life because you'd rather think it all through and by the time you are done, life has gone past. You can imagine trying to reach a future… Continue reading OVER THINKER

A beautiful new day is not always that. At least, not for everyone. As it dawns, sometimes, we really wish that it'd be dark again because we aren't ready to leave our beds to go to work, school, a meeting we are dreading or simply because we've had a rough night. Somehow, that sets the… Continue reading THE MAGIC OF A DAY

When people start out dating it is always sparks and fireworks; there's excitement, googly eyes, dopamine high... then, it plateaus and before long, the ecstasy of being in a relationship fades. Eventually, one has to start reminding one's self why he/she chose that partner in the first place. Sure enough, relationships vary in substance and… Continue reading WHY DO PEOPLE BREAKUP?