Category: SHADES OF MEMORIES

We all have fears...the kind that enslaves us, frees us in a form of cage yes, the irony is that fear can be freeing. It will be easier to understand this, if we can grasp that fear frees us from the responsibility of courage. We have fear of failure, of love, of being mediocre, of… Continue reading JOURNEYING INTO FEAR

You know how we transfer aggression, it turns out that's not the only emotion we can transfer. If transferring aggression is an internal deficiency, how would one diagnose projecting other people's problems as one's own because of empathy? This post is about understanding how and when to isolate issues that are affecting us from others.… Continue reading ANTICIPATORY ANXIETY

Disclaimer: This is going to be one goofy write up. You have been warned. I have been feeling this very serious side of me brewing for days like I am trying to find a way to write one intense, life changing, revolutionary expose but I haven't been able to tap into that yet. In the… Continue reading ANTI ROMANCE?

I want to approach this from the female perspective of what an archetype man should be. You see, generally, men are taught to be leaders, protectors and providers. To achieve this, they have to be wise beyond their years, smart, earn six figures and have a great body. Errr.... this is not usually what happens.… Continue reading MAN ENOUGH

There is argument on which accent is the sexiest in the world today. Well, I am not getting into that. All I know is, some type of accents just makes you quiver with passion. Ok, I am being too dramatic🙄. I heard one guy call fayrouz with a French accent the other day and suddenly,… Continue reading HOW DO YOU FEEL ABOUT AN ACCENT?

Rose colored glasses won't matter, if there weren't eyes to look through it. I guess my point is; the beauty of perspective is in the diversity it portrays . What happens if we discover that what we think we know about some other person, is actually a reflection of our inner conflict? A large percentage… Continue reading Projected Emotions

One thing is certain; there is a wealth gap in the world today, and that's not new. The gap between the haves and the have nots is the dynamics of every society. This isn't surprising since, value is attached to net worth and network. The psychological effect of this socio-economic differentiation goes a long way… Continue reading DECONSTRUCT COMPLEX

The average conversation with the male folk on the challenges of living as a woman is often met with an offhand dismissal. It is often surmised to be a frivolous attempt at attracting attention. I want to believe it is as a result of individuals (male gender specifically) oblivion to the plight of women. So,… Continue reading ARCHETYPE WOMAN

When mental health is in issue, I don't understand why a lot of people shy away from stating its importance. In Nigeria where I am from, people surmise mental health as overrated, and that individuals who suffer a meltdown are weak. Maybe, it is an African thing. Honestly, weakness has nothing to do with it.… Continue reading TAKING RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR EMOTIONAL HEALTH

Growing up as a young girl, I was taught that men were dangerous and the ability to ruin my life was within their power. I guess, that was my mom's way of protecting my virtue and preserving me for my husband. Were I less quizzical, that should have been enough to appease my curiousity, but,… Continue reading PROBITY