Author: Dcconnoisseur

I am very deliberate about how I wear the feminism tag. Originally, it wasn't one I would brandish in public. Within close circles however, my position was crystal. I started out with the belief that individualism is superior to other kinds of "isms" and unequivocally, the only one that matters. In fact, I used to… Continue reading WHY I AM A FEMINIST

I think everyone lives in pursuit of happiness, but not everyone can detail what their happiness looks like. Instead, we are constantly trying to fit into an image we think should bring us happiness. You know the linear equation of life; in which, at a certain age, you should start a family, you should earn… Continue reading DETERMINING THE FACE OF YOUR HAPPINESS

I grew up hearing: "You are small". I was either too small for a class, age wise, or literally, stature wise. So, I got used to tuning out the definition of small. At some point, the word small became utterly meaningless to me. The funny thing is, in my head, I am perfect. I try… Continue reading IN BETWEEN HOW WE ARE SEEN AND HOW WE APPEAR

I can think ehn... I don't know if you are like me. The issue with being an overthinker, is that you don't act much, or participate much in life because you'd rather think it all through and by the time you are done, life has gone past. You can imagine trying to reach a future… Continue reading OVER THINKER

A beautiful new day is not always that. At least, not for everyone. As it dawns, sometimes, we really wish that it'd be dark again because we aren't ready to leave our beds to go to work, school, a meeting we are dreading or simply because we've had a rough night. Somehow, that sets the… Continue reading THE MAGIC OF A DAY

When people start out dating it is always sparks and fireworks; there's excitement, googly eyes, dopamine high... then, it plateaus and before long, the ecstasy of being in a relationship fades. Eventually, one has to start reminding one's self why he/she chose that partner in the first place. Sure enough, relationships vary in substance and… Continue reading WHY DO PEOPLE BREAKUP?

I like to capture the serendipity of novelty with what I call the thrill of the first time. You know, the first time you see that very interesting movie with all the right ambiance. The first time you met a really interesting person in the most unlikely place. The first time you had the meal… Continue reading NOVELTY OF FIRST TIMES

I am insecure Insecure about how he feels about all the other women that have come before me who I had somehow made faceless in my mind, until I saw pictures. They are beautiful, intelligent and very formidable women. Is it conceited that I thought he did better by choosing me above all others? Or… Continue reading INSECURE

People's reactions when they encounter happy-go-lucky individuals is often that of suspicion. Considering such persons to be pretentious,dubious and ready to scam one with the "all is well" demeanour. Truth is, maintaining a positive outlook at all times is very tedious and requires tenacity. As human beings we are not always presented with situations that… Continue reading HAPPINESS AS A MALLEABLE REALITY

I had a friend once, or let me say I thought I had a friend. Basically, I upgraded her to friend and to her I was barely an acquaintance. I figured that out after it was her birthday and I'd gone all out. Well, not exactly all out, but to me it was like the… Continue reading THE CROSS ROAD BETWEEN JEALOUSY AND ADMIRATION