The simple things

I know a man that reminds me of the simple things. The need to focus on what is present than what is lacking. The simple things like a warm house, a loving arm to hold, night cuddles that spill over to late mornings, slow wakeup calls where your body listens to its natural rhythm, coffee before breakfast, spending time deciding what to eat, changing your mind and just rolling back under the duvet on a cold winter morning, watching the snowfall, listening to music with healing frequency in the back ground while checking on your next destination spot.

The things we often forget are the familiar ones, things or people that have lost their original allure and mystery. You wake up one day complaining about not been able to pee easily because you are squished under the arms of a loving cuddler, forgetting that there was one time, a cold side of your bed.

You make a fuss about not having enough to wear, when just two years ago your entire life fit in a box and now you have a wardrobe brimming with outfits you don’t even remember to pair. Not just that, you can afford to buy any dress you choose, if you want it enough.

I know a man who reminds me of the simple things, he says things like ‘I have all that I need right here and I will listen to him rattle of this three things like a mantra ‘I have to eat, a warm house, and love’. It surprises me each time how simply a person can summarize existence.

I struggle a lot with the notion because you see, I have trust issues. In my head, what if the house burns down, what if the love walks away, and what if there is war. Is that trust issues or just having a penchant for negativity? Also, these stuations are often imaginary but in the end, I know that my biggest issue is the thinking that having more brings security when in essence, you can only be as secured as your perception allows. In the end it is your mind that starts and ends the battle.

I know a man who reminds me of simple things and it is how he classifies things into want and need. so simple, yet so profund. If I say I need this, he says to me ask yourself is this a need or a want? At first I resisted this idea, I still do because really making things so simple as differentiating between wanting and needing makes me rethink all the ways I am already blessed with no justification for wanting more, greed is incessant.

Maybe I still fight with the idea because I was taught to want the good things of life. I say this prayer ‘May I eat the good of the land and more often than not I think economically, I think of money. The question is whether money summarizes good things and if so, how much?

Everyday life presents us an opportunity to reform, more often than not, we conform. So today, when you feel the sunshine on your face, you taste the rain drops, or  petrichor, snowflakes and chill, remember that you are only here but a moment.

When you complain about that sibling that keeps getting on your nerves, remember that even they too will pass like all living things do. When you feel like there is nothing else to live for than securing the bag, remember that the bag never zips.

In the end, life is a garden of opportunities and you get to choose what you care for and cultivate. You may not be able to do everything but you can do simple things.

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