Streamlining  Happiness

Happiness is often elusive the more we think about it. Maybe pausing reason is  the key to happiness or is it the ability to stay content with nothing changing? Be sincere with yourself, if nothing changes about your life right now, how long will it take before you lose it?

Imagine that your life goes on a freeze and what you have right now is all you are ever going to have, no chance of improvement or change, the same people you know now are those you are ever going to know barring all the people you follow on social media accounts. I mean people you have a concrete relationship with, how much of your life will you trade?

It would seem that the hope that things could get better whatever better means, is what makes everyone keep pushing but that very reality that better is elusive is what brings discontent.

Is getting everything we desire the source of true happiness? Would relationships improve if everyone could be with as many people they desired while still going back to their chosen partners knowing that their chosen partners also have people that they find even more desirable?

Imagine a world where you could knowingly borrow other people’s partners, let’s make it even more interesting, a world where you could borrow other people’s s life afterwhich you could return to yours. Will that fill us with gratitude or even more ire?

I do not know if even discovering this answer will solve anything. Sometimes, the real problem isn’t the magnitude of our desires, hope, or dreams, it is the thought that more will always be better than enough. So, more than enough is better than just enough.

I think it stems from the perception of safety. The thought that we never have to lack anything is infinitely more satisfying than the possibility to do without. I think we all can learn a lesson from fire in that way. It is never enough if there is still something to burn.

We often hear it said that it is never greener on the other side but does that stop us from wanting to go to the other side? No.

Check it, all the landmark you set for happiness, how long did that last? I will finally be happy when I can get a remote job? How long did that euphoria wear off when you realized that what you’d rather have is unlimited time with unlimited money to do whatever you want?

Imagine you get that, the new challenge will be where to start and the plethora of options does not exactly make your journey easier. In the end unrestricted never brings as much reward as the need to discpline and curtail. In the end restraint and suffering brings even greater pleasure which is the irony. Indulgenece never really gets us to the desired end and the pain we avoid is often the saviour.

We never learn this even when we know. Who wouldn’t like a sweet reality? but the true masters know that there is no form of true happiness without conquering of one’s desires and habits. If you had all the time in the world and maybe all the money you need, you’d be surprised to realize that you may end up doing nothing.

Suddenly the mad drive to always be elsewhere but where you are leaves and you are just left with a blaise contentment that makes you wonder if life is even as fufiling as it is made to seem. Well, what do I know about that anyway 😂

I wish you well in this journey but let today be a slightly different reminder that there is also joy in suffering, in perseverance, in resilience, it is in failure as it is in success.

Till next time😘,

Dcconnoisseur.