What if there really was a person that specializes in fixing lives when it turns south? All you’d just have to do is timeout and they live out the difficult parts, waking you when the scene turns to the one you can handle, how cool will that be?
One day you´ll wake up and realise that the particular day you are stepping into is different and not in a good way. The funniest part is that you would have had a premonition of this unease coming before the D-day of the crisis alert.
Now, the nature of chaos is such that everything is in disarray because nothing is as it ought to be or everything is misplaced, buried under the tornado heading your way and that trickles down to every aspect of your existence at the moment. You get a diagnosis about your health and that affects how you perform at work and in love and community affecting how you show up for friends and family.
The next dilemma is usually about assessing how deep of a mess you are in and the picture of the disarray does not necessarily tell the depth of the mess. It is when you start the cleanup that you can really access how much depth has been throttled and how much work will be required to get back to normal or a new normal.
After accessing the situation to determine the extent of the mess, the next on the agenda is seeking a way out. If there is any. The options involve fixing the situation, escaping it because it is unfixable, or accepting the situation and living with it as a new normal.
Depending on the conclusions drawn in the category the crisis fits, the next is activating the solution phase which involves taking steps to organize the chaos. This often involves knowing who to consult, trust, to share with and how much to share in such a manner that helps you still feel safe and competent to handle the crisis at your own pace and in your own time.
Sometimes, we are not that fortunate because the chaos is so far spread that you need every help available and fast. So you´ve got to trust every and anybody around at the time even if they also do not know what they are doing or may do more harm than material good. The thing about hanging by a thread is that the balance is very intricate and must be preserved in other not to ruin the frailty of the moment.
More than that, it is the need for understanding that prompts this need to seek people out. The need to be seen, accepted as human, and to be comforted but in that given moment, the complexity of the situation may bring you to a reality that shows that not everyone in your circle or that no one in your circle is equipped to handle the level of comfort you desire and this has nothing to do with their capacity to care about and for you, rather with the fact that they are limited by perspective, insight, and experience.
Another interesting aspect is that in the midst of all these, you will have to function in the status quo, you will have to drag through the routine as everyone else and when people ask “How are you?” and you say fine, they really think you are talking about regular boring stuff except you decide to open the volcanic eruption that has become your life lately.
The most defining element of a crisis is that it is simply anything that takes away your normal but not in the way you appreciate.
However, as with everything else in life, this too shall pass and as the final stage of the storm passes, eventually, you will wake up one day and the storm is over, and if somehow you are still standing even when every other thing has been blown to bits, you’d realise that this ending is an opportunity to start over, to go again and to tell your story differently.
Right now it may seem like you don’t got this but you will. In the meantime, try to hang on and enjoy the wildest ride of your life.
Yup, cheers to living on the edge, it doesn’t happen every day. Hang in there.
Xoxo
Dcconnoisseur.
Connoisseur of Memories 