There are so many wise sayings on forgiveness.
To err is human, to forgive divine…
Forgiveness is what we do for ourselves not the other person…
The most puzzling one is the duo, Forgive and Forget.
Ah ah, I laugh in spanish.
Is it just me that have come to realize how much those two words are parallel? it is like you can forgive but not forget and as long as you can’t forget, forgiveness starts slipping from you.
If there is anything the party seeking forgiveness wants, it is not to be reduced to an offensive act. The irony is as the forgiving party, that may be all you can see at the moment or even for a long time.
It is like we classify hurt into minor and major…for the minor ones, it is easy to practice forgiveness, but the major ones tend to pose more challenges than we really care to solve. We’d rather chuck it up to toxic and toxic people and just choose to cut them off.
oh yes, toxic people do exist, there won’t stop being toxic people. The question is how many of them can we avoid or cut off? I am not saying one shouldn’t protect one’s mental health and sanity. I am just saying can we really live cutting off everyone and anyone that offends us?
Trust me, I understand the need to lock up instead of continuing in vulnerability… the other annoying part is when the person asks for forgiveness… I am like, did you do this not knowing what the consequences of your action will be, or do you just want to lay hold of ignorance and sentiment to continue in your hurtful ways?
Some people actually prefer saying sorry to doing the right thing. To be honest, it is a whole lot easier to mess up and apologize than to painstakingly maintain integrity and uprightness. It is a thing of maturity and conviction.
I am on this table too… in my spiritual journey, I know my character weakness, I find it hard to give up my pleasures… I want to satisfy my own wicked cravings, revenge, refuse to be the bigger person, throw the hurt back in the double fold, add injury. Persecute and judge the person over and over again. Make them pay bitterly.
Life is not fair… the longer we stay in that space, the more corrupt we become. The person we are angry with and refuse to forgive may eventually forgive themselves and move on to do better. on the other hand, we start to resent what we’ve become.
It is easy to seat on a moral high horse when someone offends us gravely. In that moment of supremacy, we forget we hurt others too, offend God, disappoint ourselves. We are ready to detail all our good qualities, our areas of strength, how we’d never do what this other person has done despite how bad we perceive ourselves to be…
You know the drill…
It is hard to forgive, even harder to forget. To forgive is to let ourselves go from the place of the hurt. To forget is to let them go. Yes, they deserve to be pinned and nailed to the cross, to be shamed. I totally agree…crucify them. The only problem is as long as you want a crucifixion, you must stay to execute the order. As long as you do, you can never leave…
Do you want to know a secret?
There is NOTHING TOO BIG TO FORGIVE
Diminish the hurt and gain your power.
You can forgive even if the other party is not sorry. What if the other party is you?
Connoisseur of Memories 